When you make a change in lifestyle, you also make sure that you make some changes in your habits, thoughts and overall life choices so that you can get the desired results.
Insanity is described as doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result. I have seen many naturals struggle in their journey because they just can't figure the natural hair thing out.
Some have even gone back to a relaxer because their hair just won't cooperate.
At the same time, many people won't even give the natural hair route a chance because they don't know how other naturalistas do it.
When asked how I manage my hair...
5 of the 10 Things to STOP doing:
Stop coveting other women's hair.
Stop thinking your natural hair texture is an affliction.
Stop worrying about what people will think of your beauty and hair.
I couldn’t see the cold, unfamiliar hands disappear within my thick patch of curls claiming ownership over my head. But I felt them.
Seemingly everywhere I looked — long, straight, luscious hair spilled down the backs of women. Meanwhile, my hair barely kissed my shoulders, and despite my efforts, it wouldn’t grow.
I spent the next 10 years attempting to alter and hide the natural texture of my hair. And as each new weave and hairstyle gracefully obscured my natural roots, I felt beautiful.
And I was addicted to the feeling.
I wasn’t alone. Since slavery, African Americans have altered and changed their hair in attempts to mimic whites’ hair.
Today, it can be seen as a personal struggle and a struggle shared by many within the African American community.
Despite changing fads throughout the decades, the Natural Hair Movement, a movement that encourages individuals to wear their natural hair, is becoming popular once again. I, and many others, are reclaiming the beauty of natural hair.
Lee's Article Highlights: This was a really great article, Darrah Perryman gives us her modern day hair journey and the article is loaded with history regarding black hair and society going back to slavery times.
In the 1500s, slave traders from Europe captured African slaves, then they cut they slaves hair off as a way of stripping them mentally and physically of their identity and culture.
Until this article, I had no clue that women could get a migraine from the weight and pulling on the roots that comes with wearing some types of weave. The writer's description of the pain sounds like a nightmare. The worst part is thats it's done in order to hide the natural beauty.
This write-up shows that natural beauty has to be realized before it can be embraced. This realization has been happening in a big way recently.
While stretching your relaxers, it's important to keep the "Line of Demarcation", where the new growth and relaxed hair meet, strong to prevent any breakage.
This meeting point is extremely delicate and prone to breakage as the new growth comes in. In comparison to the relaxed hair, the new growth is much thicker, coarser and drier than your relaxed strands.
It is very easy for breakage to occur at the demarcation line because you are dealing with two different textures.
This was a truly profound and REAL conversation about the way Western and American culture views and treats beauty that sits outside of it's typical standards.
Actress Nicole Ari Parker of Broadway's Streetcar Named Desire, University of Pennsylvania professor Anthea Butler, cultural critic Joan Morgan, and CurlyNikki.com founder Nikki Walton, sit down with Melissa Harris-Perry to talk about the political messages behind black hair and hairstyles.
Editor’s Note: This set of videos is a classic throwback journalistic piece, in case you haven't seen it they talk about how more women have turned towards going natural since 2007 and are changing the economy of black hair.
The ladies really lay it out on the line in this heartfelt conversation, they speak very honestly about their feelings, how having children changed their perspective on their own hair and how America's view on black hair impacts the psyche of black women in their own self-perception.
They talk about the importance of telling little black girls how beautiful their hair is when doing their hair instead of saying derogatory remarks, like "you look a mess", "you ain't going outside looking like that" and "let's work on that kitchen". Here are our video highlights:
It's amazing that it's considered "revolutionary" to wear your hair the way it grows out of your head.
They talk about worrying about if black men will find them attractive, will employers want to hire them.
Black women have literally been dying of poor health because they don't want to workout and mess up their hair.
Going natural was a lengthy and scary notion for me. Once I gained the confidence and the knowledge of the many health benefits to my psyche, skin, and hair — I still put it off.
This is a short journey of how I ditched my chemical relaxer, plus a few tips I discovered so you can go the natural route too.
Editor’s Note: Kristin is a brilliant writer that really makes you feel her journal to getting a beautiful head full of healthy, natural hair. I'm sure many women can relate to the pain and discomfort of getting a perm and Kristin cried and sobbed her way through it until she'd had enough.
It's a profound thought to think that just like Kristin, so many women haven't had healthy hair since childhood, as she says, 6th grade was the last time her hair was healthy(until now).
She got past her fears of thinking she'd end up dateless with short hair and did what she had to do to get her hair and HERSELF back. Here are our article highlights:
Kristin compares getting her hair permed to being tortured.
She highlights the 3 ways begin your journey to natural hair. The big chop, the relaxer grow out and the weave out.
She says it's one of the best things she's ever done, not just for her beauty but to overcome self-doubt.